Thursday, January 22, 2009

Sisterly Love

Carley and her boyfriend Chris broke up the other night. She has slept with me the last 2 nights-she is heartbroken. She is 16 and this is her first time to know this kind of pain most of us have experienced at least once in our life. It hurts-physically and emotionally. She keeps telling me she wants the pain to go away-all I can do is tell her it will...give her hugs...reassure her she will come out of this a stronger, smarter person. I even sent her her balloons and CHOCOLATE at school.

She will be fine-I know that even if she doesn't know it yet. She is young but she is also very loyal and loves with all her heart. There is nothing wrong with that... but teenage relationships do run their course and are fleeting most of the time. Doesn't do any good to tell her this now-but she will figure it out...maybe with the help of her big sister...

In October my oldest daughter, Taylor and her fiance broke up. She had a horrific few weeks where I was her lifeline. I held her and was there to help her through a horrible time in her life.

Taylor is doing better and healing

Last night I watched through my own tears as Taylor sat next to Carley on the floor pulled her to her in an embrace, stroked her hair and soothed her with her words of experienced knowledge. It was endearing to witness and made me so proud of both of them. I have often wondered if they would ever be close like they were when they were little girls, if they would grow up and be best friends like me and my sister are-last night I watched as they shared their moment and I am reassured.

Taylor knows so well what the searing pain in her little sister's heart feels like, she remembers not being able to eat, she can recall the feeling of hopelessness and the thousands of tears. Taylor told Carley so many of the same things I told to her a few short months ago. Through her own life lesson she was able to reach out, show compassion and try to make it better for her sister.

I witnessed my girl's, my daughter's sharing sisterly love...nothing can beat that.
*added note-Connor loves his sister's too-he is obviously loyal and a male-his response was to want to beat Chris up. I had to smile and say that won't be necessary just give Carley a hug!:)

Trying to Keep Imagining!


The Muse said...

Hugs all around!
oh i recall those days! :) we so live in the moment...and it is just beyond our comprehension that things will get better!
happy she has you :)

Dana said...

So, I just deleted my initial response because I went on some tangent about my sister. We have a great relationshop now, not so great as teenagers. Funny how that works out.

I am glad that they were able to connect in such a personal way. I hate that it had to be over stinking boys, but still. As a teenager, no matter what you really believe that the person you are dating is the world. I hope she feels better soon.

The Muse said...

* you don't ever have to say you are sorry sweet pea (regarding blog game comments! LOL) it is hard to get an answer in there at times...with people posting, simultaneously...but, think of it as a big old game of Twister...with people all over the mat! :)

i love having you visit!

Tonjia said...

I am so sorry to hear about the breakup, time will heal..

Love the new background!

Amy said...

I'm so sorry for Carley. I remember having my heart broken a few times; I would haved loved a sister to help me get through it. I can imagine how proud you must be of your girls. I think I like Connor's idea though!! I didn't date in high school because I had a older very strong brother.
Love ya

Ness said...

How lucky the sisters are to have each other, and most importantly, to have you for their mom. Some day she will see the wisdom in the quote, "Tis better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all."

Hugs to you and your kids.

jojo said...

It is a testament to you-mom- that your children are there for each other in comfort and strength. They are lucky and will always have each other ..;)

Brandy said...

That's so sweet. I hope as my girls grow up their relationship continues to grow and strengthen too.